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Go to LisaFIT, Facebook page now. Read my fitness thoughts and watch my exercise clips.
And check out my Youtube!
When I was younger I was the middle child wedged between a super duper cute younger sister that did everything perfectly and a talented athletic pretty older sister. When I was born my grandmother said, “If you don’t pin back her ears she will never find a man”. When I was four I started ballet and my mom said, “You should wear black because its slimming.” Through grade school I never liked being Asian
although back then I was called Oriental. Through high school I was obsessed with staying under 100lbs. I can remember being about five years old and laying out in my backyard with my eyes open and hair spread out on the grass starring at the sun. My father said, “What are you doing?” I said, “If the sun can turn my skin brown then maybe it can turn my hair blond and my eyes blue”. This started my everlasting journey for change.
I struggled with changing myself and connecting that to disliking myself. It took me a long time to truly appreciate what I was born with and at the same time learn how to maximize my genetics. I am always changing my workouts to get stronger muscles. I am always changing my diet to see what affects my body the best. I am always changing, it’s who I am.
I can never turn off my brain thinking about how to change my clients diets or workouts so that they too can see and feel changes in their bodies. It’s who I am. I will always be working on changing myself especially my body. I love sculpting it. I love being able to challenge what I have been given but finally I don’t want to be something I am not. Who am I? I am a 42year old 5″, 115lbs Chinese Korean woman but that doesn’t define me. It’s what I do with that – that does!
Who are you?
The other day I had to go to the gym in the evening. I hit a ton of traffic driving to the gym. My three mile drive on the highway took me fifteen minutes. I circled the parking lot for about ten minutes trying to find a spot. I finally found a person leaving. I followed her to her car, put my blinker on and waited patiently. She pulls out of the space and in races a little sports car. At that moment my first reaction is to swear and think, “What an A__hole!” I did not just sit in traffic, circle the parking lot, closely drive behind a woman walking to have some guy who is obviously oblivious to his surroundings take my spot. I was really pissed but what good was that going to do me? Normally I would drive off, find another space and probably stay pissed. Instead I put my car in park, stepped out and walked over to the other driver who was still in his car. I said to him kindly and with a smile on my face, “Hey – I am sorry but I was waiting for this parking spot.” To my surprise, he smiled back and looked embarrassed. He apologized and pulled his car out of the spot.
You cannot control what anyone is going to do. You can’t predict it. All you can do is control how you react to it. A lot of people will do things that annoy you, how will you react? A handful of people will do things that hurt you, how will you react? A few people will intentionally try to harm you, how will you react?
My workout that day was incredible. Finding the inner strength to not give into anger felt good. Having the courage to walk up to the driver felt great. Being able to stand up for myself in a kind confident manner felt fantastic. I chose to react with strength, courage and confidence.
How do you react?
I don’t ever want you to think that my posts are me “preaching”. I don’t claim to have all the answers. I don’t think I am teaching you anything new. In fact it is just the opposite. I have so many questions. I am constantly the student. I am always ready to learn. My life prompts my posts. My day to day observations are what ignites me to think deeper. Everything that I share with you is just me talking through my own journey out loud. It is me “working out” through life’s ups and downs.
In the gym, I work my muscles. In my day to day life I work my mind. In my relationships I work my heart. In my quiet moments, I work my soul. I live by this rule, “If you aren’t working at it then don’t complain when you lose it”. As I have gotten older I can see muscle atrophy quicker when I have had to take time off from the gym due to illness or injury. So I make sure to work out on a regular basis. Throughout the day my mind tends to go to the “dark side” by over analyzing and spiraling into pensiveness. So I make sure to work on letting things go. My heart is forever trying to figure out forgiveness so I am working on allowing time to heal. Lastly, my soul has been injured by me not practicing self-preservation. I am working on protecting myself. It is all a constant obstacle course with mistakes made, lessons learned and growth be had.
I am always working out. Although I am rarely complacent, I am grateful. My posts on Facebook, my newsletters, my workouts are all an on-going journey to be better. I am just lucky to have an audience to share it with. Thank you for reading. If a post resonates with you please “like it”, share it, pass it along and know that it’s all a work in progress.
Do you work out?
There is a phrase I hear often at work, “I had no choice” and it truly pains me to hear it. I will read in someone’s fitness journal that they “had” to eat a donut. I will hear from a client that they “had” to drink alcohol. Why is it you feel you have no other choice? Why do you put yourself in that position?
My first reaction to “I have no choice,” is to be sympathetic. I want to be understanding to how someone feels because saying, “I have no choice” is just a feeling. It is NOT your reality. We ALWAYS have choices. You may not see the choices that lie in front of you because guess what? The choices that you are offered are reflections of where you are in life and what you have done up to that point. See your life as it is, stop fooling yourself. You may not “want” to hear there are other possibilities. Acknowledging possibilities means you are responsible for your decision and the repercussions to that decision. So start owning it. Lastly and most importantly, you may not “like” any of the realistic and healthy options that are out there for you. That’s really the heart of the matter for most, liking what your options are and doing what’s healthy versus what you like, want or feel. You can tell yourself over and over, “I had no choice.” It relinquishes you from owning your life. It makes you a spectator in your movie. It makes you a passenger in your drive. It gives the weak a chance to deny their power. It gives the sad a chance to blame others when their “choice” back fires.
I hate to be the one to tell you. You don’t have to eat the donut just start packing your food. You don’t have to drink alcohol to feel better just exercise. You don’t have to do something that’s going to hurt others. You don’t have to do something that will eventually hurt yourself. You ALWAYS have choices.
What do you choose?
The other day a clients says to me, “I cannot wait until I lose all my weight.”
I ask, “What will happen once you lose all your weight?”
Client says, “I will be super happy and proud of myself.”
I ask, “So if you don’t lose all your weight, will you be unhappy and not proud of yourself?”
Client says, ….. (silence) …..
Think about the words you say. Your words have repercussions deeper than you realize. Telling yourself something truly dictates your future. There are enough things and people out there to challenge your happiness, why be one of them?
Can you be happy now?
It’s no surprise to any of my clients what’s in store for them when they walk into my studio. I am going to challenge them. I am going to push them outside their comfort levels. I am going to send their body into stress mode. It’s the price they pay when they hire me to help change their body. They pay a price but guess what, so do I.
The way a client reacts towards the sessions designed for them might surprise you. A lot of clients give me dirty looks. Some clients yell at me. A few clients hit me. One time a client walked out and never returned. I pay a price. It’s my job and I don’t take it personal but why do people react like this? Why do challenges create frustration? Why does being pushed outside comfort levels elicit anger? Why is stress the common excuse to be mean? Why would you hurt the one that wants to help?
There is a big price that you pay when you push away those that want to help you. You find yourself alone in the world. Is it worth the price? Can you let challenges go to create closeness? Can living outside your comfort level elicit self awareness? Can stress be the common reason for relying on others who care about you? If you can’t or you won’t or you answered “No” then…
What price do you pay?
Almost three years ago I started LisaFIT. It was challenging to go on my own. It was sad to say goodbye to the fitness companies that were like family to me. It was scary to stamp my name on everything that I did. It has been exhausting, stressful, tiresome, expensive and one incredible journey that I would not change for anything.
Three years ago I followed what I have loved since the day I taught my first jazzercise class. I had no idea how many beautiful people I would meet along the way. I wasn’t aware how much my passion would affect others. I never imagined that this journey would open my eyes to my purpose, our purpose in life – to care!
Although fitness is my passion, my purpose is to care. We can all be authentic in our passions but there is only one purpose – to truly care. It’s to care about the earth. It’s to care about one another. It’s to care about yourself. It’s to care and to never stop.
What do you care about?
So many people tell me that they are waiting for ____ before they can start focusing on their health and wellness. They tell me all their reasons and truly believe this is what’s stopping them.
This is what I hear:
“I am waiting until I get more money.”
“I am waiting until my schedule is more consistent.”
“I am waiting until I finish school.”
“I am waiting until I change jobs.”
“I am waiting until I stop traveling.”
“I am waiting until _____” You fill in the blank
People are always waiting for something to decide for them when to start taking care of themselves. I don’t get it. Why do so many allow external factors to denote their internal health? How can you allow so much to get in the way of the love for yourself? And finally, why do you give power to those and to things? Do you realize that there will always be something or someone that can get in the way of your true destiny if you let it? Take charge of your authentic self and create your happiness now. Stop waiting!
Own your place in this world. Stop blaming people around you for your short comings. Stop using your situation as an excuse. Stop giving power to the reasons that hold you back and start giving power to your will to move forward. Stop hiding behind your apologies. You are your own keeper.
What are you waiting for?
People tell me all the time that they don’t feel like they got a good workout unless they are dripping in sweat and super sore the next day. In order to get to that point without any problems arising, you need to be well fueled, plenty hydrated, have food ready to eat within 30 minutes after your workout, have postural symmetry, muscular balance, healthy joints, no prior injuries and the entire next day be able to lay around like a sloth. Does that sound like you? If not then you don’t need to be sweaty and sore to have a good workout.
If that was my goal as a “personal” trainer to get you super sweaty and sore then I would tell everyone to do 100 jump squats, 100 push ups, 100 sit ups, non stop and 1 rep/1 second timing. I promise you will be a sweaty pig and sloth sore the next day but the key word is “personal”. My workouts are designed for you. I take into consideration your life, your past-present-future. We all have injuries from our past. We all have to function at work, home, kids, pets, etc. We all want to stay active for a long long time. When you train with me, all of those are part of your fitness plan to help you reach your goal.
Each person should get that “personal” attention. I have to get to know your body. I have to understand your lifestyle. I don’t do the same workout from person to person. When you walk into my studio, the goal is to give you a good workout catered for you. If you get sweaty and sore, then that is just a by product not the definition or the purpose.
Do you get super sweaty and sore?
I am not sure if its jealousy, envy or complete utter awe. I am fixated on the women in the gym who can look so pretty while working out. How do they do it? How do they get all those muscles without straining? How do they get so lean without sweating? How in the world does their makeup not smear? And please, how can that strappy tiny top be comfortable to work out in? How do they do it?
For those of you who haven’t witnessed me in the gym, let me paint the picture as to what I look like when I train. I wear running shirts, maximum support sports bra and an old faded tank. I admit it, I pay for the good stuff – dry weave, quick dry, four-way stretch, anti-microbial, upside down horse shoe emblem stuff but it isn’t matching. I take all my make up off before working out because if I don’t I will
look like a raccoon by the end. I have sweat dripping onto the ground. I breath so heavily that my throat starts to burn. I am sure the people around me can hear me groaning and swearing under my breath. I have also been told that my face looks like I am going to kill someone. So how do they do it?
Sometimes I find myself caring what I look like in the gym but then I pick up a weight and all that changes. All I want to do is push myself to do more reps, lift more weight – be stronger, be better. It doesn’t matter what I look like on the outside. Its how I feel on the inside the takes over. Here’s a photo of dirt on my knees because I just couldn’t hold my lunge anymore. It’s not pretty but damn I felt strong!
How do YOU do it?