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Around this time of the year people are always telling me that they are waiting for the “1st of the year” to start their diet, to join a gym, begin yoga, hire a trainer, etc. I hear, “It’s the holidays so I just want to wait.”
Guess what? Thanksgiving and Christmas are TWO days. There will always be some day or some thing that will come between you and your goals if you let it. Why give the holidays the power to alter your health or how you feel about yourself? Why give up the control over your life?
I am here to tell you that saying, “I am waiting…” Is just another EXCUSE! Think about all the things in your life that are on hold because you are “waiting”. How long have you been waiting? Maybe you are “hoping” things will change. Some of you are “wanting” it to be easier.
Waiting, Hoping, Wanting are words that give you permission to do no action. They will hold you in a state of purgatory. They are EXCUSE words that release you of responsibility and give all the power to the unknown. In other words you are powerless and the goals you have will not be met if you keep saying, “I am waiting” or “I am hoping” or “I am wanting”.
I encourage you to take a look at what you NEED right now that will make you healthy and then do it TODAY! No more waiting for the 1st of the year, the next month, this week to be over or tomorrow. Stop excusing yourself for being essentially unhappy and unhealthy.
Instead of waiting for the 1st, tell yourself that you will have your goal in place by the 1st. Write down three things that need to be done to make your goal happen and have them all checked off before the 1st. Meaning you will already have had 40 plus days of working towards your goal instead of 40 days of waiting, hoping and wanting.
Are you waiting for the 1st?
It’s been several days since I have been to the gym. I know, I know- I work at a gym. I even have a gym at home. Don’t get me wrong. I have exercised. I have gone for runs. I sit on my bike at work and get all my emails and paperwork done. I stretch, foam roll and do yoga all on my own. BUT – nothing is like going to “the gym”. It’s my escape!
As soon as I park my car I put my headphones on. I sing as I strut myself into the gym. Entering the gym I feel as if I am walking into my childhood home, “I am home.” Lock my stuff up and head to the gym floor. I find a
piece of cardio equipment available and jump on. I am not picky. Look through my playlist for the ONE inspirational song of the day to repeat 3-4 times so I can get a quick 10 min warm up. That song is my mantra, my chant, my theme. After that I literally check out. I stare off into space. I look pass people. I feel nothing but my heart rate getting faster. I hear nothing but my music and breath. I see nothing but sweat dripping off of me. I have escaped!
So now you have my secret. I head to the gym to escape. It’s healthier than a cocktail. It’s cheaper than a vacation.
Where’s your escape?
Sometimes when I am training a client the exercises I am giving them aren’t working. Sometimes when I am offering nutritional guidance, my suggestions are not working. Sometimes I feel like I am at a loss, like I just don’t know what to do. One exercise gives them pain. Another exercise they don’t feel it in the right place. One diet makes them tired. One diet makes them hungry. Why isn’t it working?
So I follow these three guidelines to things that aren’t working.
1) When I am not sure – I retreat
2) When I don’t know – I research
3) When I can’t do anymore – I refer out
When my efforts are not working I step back. I look at the client carefully – their gait, their posture, their movement, their stillness. I take a birds eye view of what is going on. I try to see a different perspective. I look at myself as a trainer and see how I might be missing something.
When I am not sure what to do I ask. I ask the client. I inquire. I go through their entire day and diet again as if they were a new client. I seek advice of others. I read. I write. I study.
When I feel that I have exhausted my means, I suggest they seek a different professional. I am confident that I give my all and work diligently to help but sometimes what someones needs is not better but just different.
I don’t know why it isn’t working but I do know that I won’t waste your time. I will retreat, research and refer out if needed. In other words – I will walk away, get help and say “Goodbye” if it isn’t working.
Why isn’t it working?
There are so many fitness workouts, diet programs, cleanses, etc. How do you know what is right for you? I know of people who will keep doing a certain exercise plan because they get results but they also get injured. I hear of people going back to the same diet program because they lost a lot of weight but were starving. I have
worked with people on cleanses who were tired and grumpy but love the fact they were “cleaning” out their insides. I am here to tell you that those are not right for you. You don’t have to be in pain, hungry or tired to be healthy and happy with yourself.
If your workouts are causing pain – you need to stop. If your diet is leaving you hungry – you need to stop. If your cleanse is making you tired – you need to stop. I know sometimes investing time and money makes it hard to stop. I know that focusing on the results is tempting but you have to enjoy your life. I know that we are wired to think that everything comes with a price but the price IS the hard work, motivation and discipline. Pain, hunger and tiredness are wrong.
It’s not easy to know what is right or wrong for you. It’s an experiment and most of us work on trial and error versus someone telling us what is right. The kicker is a lot of the times what is right for us isn’t always the quick path, the fun choice or what we want to hear. Stop doing what is wrong for you today. Come talk
to me and together we can find what is right for you.
There are 6 elements to an inversion / going upside down.
3 are physical and 3 are mental.
Three physical elements are:
1) Connecting to the arm muscles and how to elicit them
2) Feeling transfer of weight move from feet to hands gradually
3) Locking the torso and contracting your abdominal strength
Three mental elements are:
1) Releasing your doubt
2) Understanding your fear
3) Giving yourself patience
I promise once you tap into these 6 elements then you will be upside down in no time and be able to play there!
Can You Go Upside Down?
Multiple Choice: M&Ms, Skittles, Reeses, Kit Kat, Candy Corn,
1) What has a shelf life of ONE year and would take 20 minutes of jumping rope to kill off?
2) What contains NINE different dyes and takes 40 minutes on a stationary bike to slaughter?
3) What has over TWO hundred calories and takes 30 minutes of running to execute?
4) What has ELEVEN grams of fat per serving and take 60 minutes of walking to annihilate?
5) What has TWENTY NINE grams of sugar and takes 25 minutes of circuit training to massacre?
1) Candy Corn, 2) Skittles, 3) Kit Kat, 4) Reeses, 5) M&Ms
When you walk into LisaFIT it’s because you want me to help you, that is a vulnerable place to be in. When we start talking about why you haven’t met your goals on your own, it is a very emotional discussion. When you start training with me it is a very intimate setting because it is just you and I. The whole process is challenging and it requires compassion, empathy and a lot of sensitivity on both of our parts.
Recently I was told that I am “too sensitive” and it was not the first time nor do I think it will be the last time. I use to take offense to those words. Now that I am older I take it as a compliment although it is never said to me in a kind voice. I grew up being called “too sensitive”. I was sad watching “Charlotte’s Web”. It made me sensitive to what happens to animals in order for us to eat them. My parents said, “Just don’t think about it and eat your food!”. At school I was bullied from second grade to seventh grade. My sister would yell at the kids. My parents would tell me to ignore them. I was hurt because people were mean. It made me more sensitive to the words that I say to other people and how much they can hurt. I used to watch the news in the morning and hear about the deaths, accidents and illnesses. I felt terrible for those people and anyone who had to endure such pain. I was told in a matter of fact sort of way, “Death happens everyday”, which to me seemed an insensitive thing to say even if it is a fact. Still today if the song, “Same Love” comes on I tear up because I cannot imagine being hated for who I love.
So I understand that to the rest of the world I am “too sensitive”. I am affected by they way we treat animals. I am hurt by the words people say not just to me but to each other and behind close doors. I pause my breath every time I hear of a death. I let things effect me which makes me “too sensitive” by majority but who is to say that the majority is right. My sensitivity allows me to be vulnerable, emotional and intimate with clients, friends and family. Can you say the same for you? How many of you choose to “not think about it” to make yourself less
sensitive? How many of you yell through your emotions so you won’t cry? How many of you ignore to manage your hurt? How many of you have become callus to death because you hear about it all the time? How many of you hate what is unfamiliar to you? How many of you still feel the need to hold back your tears so others won’t
think you are “too sensitive”
Are you too sensitive?
I am home sick. Since I am not working out or going to work where I get to work out other people, I am watching people working out on The Biggest Loser. I really like this show because it clearly states the mental, emotional aspect of weight gain and loss.
The contestants work hard throughout the entire week before each weigh in. They are eating healthy. They are exercising more. This all results in them feeling better about themselves. Some report their cholesterol is better. Others say they are no longer at risk for diabetes. They have more energy, less pain and an overall better sense of health and wellness. But all of that seems to not matter when they stand on the scale and see their weight. That’s the part I don’t like. The negative feelings they carry when they haven’t lost as much weight seems to out weigh (no pun intended) all their hard work. I know it’s tv but those feelings weigh heavy on a person and that matters.
It’s a sad shame that we see them so down when they are truly in a better emotional and physical state. For almost the entire hour we get to witness their strengths both in and out of the gym. We watch them triumph over struggles. We hear them say how happy they are with themselves. That’s what matters!
If you are trying to lose weight please focus on what matters. How well do you sleep? How much water do you drink? How many vegetables do you eat a day? How strong do you feel? How well do you manage your stress? All of those matter “weigh” more than what the scale reads.
I encourage you to watch the show but understand –
What really matters?
Mayo Angelou said, “Just because you are in pain doesn’t mean you have to BE a pain.”
I had a client tell me he purchased a series of five deep tissue massages. I asked how it was going. He said, “Well I don’t swear and yell at the therapist like I do when you massage me.” I asked him why not. He told me, “I don’t want the therapist to think I am a wimp and can’t handle the pain.”
I had another client tell me that when she use to train at a big gym she never complained or whined during her sessions. I asked why. She said she didn’t want everyone in the gym hearing her sound so pathetic. She said, “I don’t want everyone thinking I am a loser”.
Let me get this straight, with me you can swear and yell. With me you can complain and whine. When you are not with me, you cannot because you don’t want anyone to think you are a wimp or a loser. I am here to tell you that you are not a wimp so handle the pain like a champion. You are not a loser so handle the session like a winner. I know you can because you do it when you are not with me!
Guess what?! You are not alone. We all go through pain. Pain does not give you permission to be mean nor does it give you the right to be a wimp or a loser. In fact pain gives you the chance to prove your strength and understand your weaknesses. It gives you the opportunity to rely on others who care about you and walk away from those who sabotage you. Pain has the amazing ability to create relationships and break up relationships. Pain can motivate change or can also spiral you into insanity. Pain can teach a lesson or promote ignorance. Pain can create a community or cultivate loneliness. Pain can deepen empathy or intensify impassivity . Pain will come in and out of your life so learn to use it to your advantage.
Being in pain hurts – I get it. Living with chronic pain is uncomfortable – I understand that. Feeling like you have no control over your pain is depressing – I have been there. Being a pain because you have pain – you are on your own with that.
Are you a pain?