I met a new client last week. He walks in and hands me my paperwork and says, “I didn’t fill it out because I am not ready to commit but don’t worry – I will pay you.” I say, “I am not asking for a commitment.” When a person walks into my studio, there are no contracts to sign, membership levels or commitments to hold you down. All I ask is that you listen with an open mind and I will listen with an open heart, that you do what you say and I will do exactly what I say, that you tell me what you want so I can do whatever I can to help you and in trade you do whatever it is necessary to help yourself.
This is a relationship between you and I, the only binding “contract” or commitment is your conscience. My new client decided to fill out the paperwork at the end of the session. I said, “You sure you want to do that? How do you know I am ready to commit?”
Are you ready to commit?
Am I Right for You
In the photo can you see the person on the left sitting down using his phone. That person is the trainer. There is another person on the right side of the photo sitting on a mat, she is the client. The client was stretching in a way that was not as efficient as it could be. The other day when I was parking in Coronado I saw a guy yelling at a handful of women in the park. He was standing about 10 feet away from them saying, “Keep going, 5 more, 4 more,..” Everyone was doing pushups and either struggling or cheating.
I don’t look at any of these trainers as bad trainers just different from me. They are totally and utterly different from me. I am not able to watch you do something without showing you ways to do it better. I am not able to stand back when you look like you need help. I cannot be in your space while you are doing something that could potentially hurt you later on. It is super hard for me to stay quiet, bite my tongue, look away or ignore. Lastly, there is no way I would motivate you or say, “Keep going” if what you are doing is wrong for you. I can’t be that person but there a lot of them out there.
The way I am may not be for you and that is okay. I am an in your face, intense, don’t let you get away with anything, call you on your S–T type of trainer and type of person . I am not easy going or laid back. And for most of you, I am way too much . I get that.
Luckily for my studio, there are three other trainers that might be a better fit for you. Check them out and give them a try. They are all offering free consultations and some do a free trial workout. You never know, they might be better for you.
Am I right for you?
whats for lunch
People ask me all the time, “What do you eat?” And I tell them all the time that I eat what I tell them to eat. I rarely go against my “rules” for eating to be “Clean & Lean”. I like to keep a constant “diet” because the body thrives on a sense of normalcy and consistency. The body works at it’s optimum when it can continuously rely on a nutritious diet made up of clean foods with little to no processing or chemicals – BOTTOM LINE, LONG STORY SHORT, HONESTLY SPEAKING, etc etc.
With that being said, there is no end in your “diet” unless you are dead. You cannot think or say, “I just eat this way until I reach my goal and then I can eat whatever I want.” That is called “yo-yo” dieting. It is the path to going up and down with your weight. It’s an equation to shutting down your metabolism.
Diet is a constant. It is one of the few things that you can control. You control what you buy at the grocery store. You control what you order at a restaurant. You are the only one holding the fork to your mouth. Life is full of unpredictable experiences that you cannot control. If you want your body to react to those experiences at it’s best then you better be giving your body something to rely on.
Whats for lunch?
What do you do with the broken small pieces of your very expensive organic, flax, chia, quinoa baked chips (or any other chips)? You make Chip Dish
Bottom of bag chips, approx. 1 1/2 cup of chips
1/2 cup of mashed black beans
1/4 cup of salsa
1/4 cup of cheese, any kind will do even vegan
1/2 of avocado
Mix beans and salsa together and heat until warm
Place 1/3 of chips on bottom, layer beans/salsa mixture , 1/4 of sliced avocado, 1/8 cheese.
Repeat layer and end with chips on top
Heat entire dish in oven for 5 minutes at 400 degrees.
Garnish with salsa and avocado
I can’t recall when I posted, “I miss teaching yoga”. I got a lot of responses. I thought about hosting classes at my studio. I thought about teaching at someone else’s studio. I thought about teaching for charity. I thought about a lot of things. Why do I miss it so much? What do I want to gain from my teachings? What can I offer?
Back in October I made a decision to volunteer my yoga teachings. I answered those questions. I miss teaching yoga because it truly embraces the mind, body and spirit. I wanted to get back the awesome feeling of being among people aiming to be better, internally and externally. I realized that I could offer my time, one hour a week, once a week to a woman’s shelter.
So it’s been four months of following up, emailing, calling and begging to work for free. It got to be comical. I had no idea how much effort it would take. Finally this week I heard from Becky’s House – I was ecstatic!
Just when you think you are in a slump. Just when you think you have no available time. Just when you think you are tapped out, burnt out, waving the “white” flag – you CAN DO MORE!
What are you going to do?
What Are You Going To Do?
Lately I haven’t been motivated to go to the gym. I pack my gym bag in hopes to get to the gym but I keep finding other things to do. When I finally get to the gym I walk aimlessly like I don’t know what to do. I leave the gym with a light sweat solely because I sat in the sauna and stretched. I can’t remember the last time I felt this way. It was starting to get me depressed. I was beginning to question my relationship with fitness.
So after a few weeks of “hoping” that I find some motivation – After countless times in the gym of “waiting” for something magical to happen when I walk in – I have decided to stop “hoping” and “waiting”. I am no longer packing my gym bag. I am no longer going to the gym. I am changing things up.
Sunday I climbed the cliffs of Del Mar with my daughter. We did cartwheels and handstands along the beach. Monday I ran three miles and took a yoga class. Tuesday I ran two miles in the morning, three miles in the afternoon and six miles in the evening. The last few days I have felt my best.
Hoping and Waiting is such an awful place to be in, its what we call “stuck in a rut”. Are you hoping you get the next job promotion? Are you waiting to make more money? Are you hoping and waiting your relationships: with
fitness, with your family, with your partner – hoping and waiting they get better? It is so easy to get stuck in a rut and hope / wait that something will get you out of the rut but that is giving up your power. Relationships aren’t about hoping and waiting. It is about making them happen. I have no idea when I will get back into the gym and thats just fine. I am pretty darn happy with my fitness relationship now that I am getting to spend more time
on my yoga mat and more miles in my running shoes.
Are you motivated?
I was standing in the custom design shirt store trying to figure out what I wanted on my LisaFIT shirts. The owner was helping me. I had a list of sayings such as, “You want this body?” which we both agreed would get the wrong attention. Then there was, “How to get fit?” which sounded so boring. None of them seem to fit me and my business model. So I gave up trying to come up with a “catchy” phrase. The owner and I sat down in his office to write up the invoice. As he was putting together my total cost, he asked me, “Why in the world would you start a business?” He knew of my situation.
I was a mother of three young children, ages 3, 5 and 7. My husband at the time traveled about 70% of the time. We had no family to help. I remember trying to get a job and writing down my available hours of MWF, 930AM-1130AM because my youngest was in preschool from 9AM – 12PM. I had every excuse in the book to not start a business. I was busy. I was tired. I had no time. I had no help.
I calmly looked at the owner and said, “No excuses!”
What’s your excuse?
What’s Your Excuse?
I am all about health and fitness. I live, eat, breathe it but that doesn’t mean that I HAVE to go to the gym no matter what. It doesn’t mean I have to spend hours working out. It means I choose healthy and fit options when
given the chance. I take it easy when I am tired instead of drinking a double espresso. I walk to the store instead of drive. I drink water instead of juice or soda. I sleep instead of watching television at night. I don’t keep alcohol in my home or desserts.
You don’t have to workout everyday to be healthy and fit. In fact, lets say you get to the gym five times a week for an hour but you are drinking coffee to get yourself there. You are sitting in your car all day. You are drinking soda with your meals. You are staying up watching TV. You are drinking alcohol every day after work. You have dessert every night after dinner. Lets just say that is you. You are not healthy and fit just because you go to the gym.
I see most clients two to three times a week for an hour but is it enough to be healthy and fit? Hell NO! That is 2-3 hours of their week. What are they doing the other 165 hours? Just because you workout with me doesn’t make you healthy and fit. You need to constantly keep choosing healthy and fit options. It isn’t something that you can buy a membership to. It isn’t someone you can hire to do it for you. It isn’t even an app that can keep
track for you. It isn’t found in a pill. It isn’t seen as lean or muscular. Its you making healthy and fit choices: spiritually, soulfully and seriously.
Are you healthy and fit?
Are You Healthy and Fit?
Way back in my group exercise instructing days I filled in to teach a “Bootcamp” class. I was told the class was mostly men, early twenties. The teacher I was filling in for was a young muscular guy that boasted about how hard the class was and told me to “kill” them. I would hear about the 100 burpee challenge and the push up contests. He would enjoy it when people could not make it through his class. It sounded like torture to me and an equation for injury. I never understood the mentality of an instructor whose intention is to kick their students butt and make them “die” during the workout. I don’t even know how to prepare for that.
So the day I subbed for the “Bootcamp” class I was conflicted. There was no way I felt comfortable trying to “kill” these guys but I didn’t want to let them down. The guys walked in and immediately sized me up. They were “voicetress” and arrogant. They all started grabbing jump ropes, barbells, various dumbbell weights etc. What a waste of time to set all of that equipment up and a waste of space to keep all the equipment around you. I stopped them and told them all to grab one weight. I think my words were, “Take only ONE weight, choose wisely because that weight will be with you the entire hour and you are to NEVER put it down.” I heard the guys talking amongst themselves and saying things like “How are we going to get a good workout with just one weight?” They looked disappointed.
Of course the bad ass boys rushed over to get the heaviest weight that was available to them in the class. I believe it was a 20lb dumbell. About three minutes into class they were changing out their 20lb dumbell for a 15lb and 12lb. About ten minutes into class they were changing their weight to a 10lb. The egos were tossed aside. The mouths were shut. The eyes stopped rolling. The boys were working hard. They ran high knees with the weight behind their back. They punched with the weight in their hand to a five count while holding wall squats. They put the weight between their feet and hopped while in a low push up. They did handstands against the wall and passed the one weight from left to right. They even did their ab workout and stretches with the same one weight. I got asked, “When do we get a water break?” I said, “It is your hour to do whatever you like. I don’t announce breaks.”
At the end of class everyone was extremely anxious and happy to put their one weight away. It was a different group of guys. They were quiet and humble. One guy even came up to me and said, “That was a great class – I was not prepared for that!” I said, “Some of the best things in life happen when you are the least prepared.”
Are you prepared?
Are You Prepared?
At my studio I do not weigh my clients. There is no scale. I personally don’t own a scale. When I go to the doctors office, I look away from the scale because I don’t want to know how much I weigh. I suggest to all of my
clients to throw their scale away and stop looking down at that number.
I understand that many people focus on their weight so they use the scale to measure that. They use a scale to keep them on track because once they reach their ideal weight they will be ….. happy? But what if I told you – you
didn’t need the scale? What if I said that as soon as you release yourself from being owned by the number you see looking down at your feet is when you will be happy? What if I said, stop looking down?
As soon as you can get rid of the idea you need to be a certain number – you will be happy. As soon as you can pick walking outside instead of watching tv – you will be happy. As soon as you can choose clean food versus processed food – you will be happy. As soon as you can stop counting at calories and start throwing away chemicals (artificial sweeteners are the worse) – you will be happy. As soon as you can spend more time preparing your food than ordering your food – you will be happy. As soon as your actions define you and not a number, what you wear, what you drive or where you live or even how much money you make – you will be happy.
Your happiness with yourself isn’t defined by a number you see looking down at your feet. It’s a reflection of a continuous healthy relationship with yourself with no breaks, pauses or my favorite phrase “cheat days”. You are
honest with yourself. You are true to yourself. You are good to yourself meaning you sleep when you are tired. You rest when you are ill. You eat so that you can have energy. You drink so that you can be hydrated. It’s the mentality that you can always be better, versus thinking you are worse than before. It’s the “wanting” to take care of yourself versus “having” to take care of yourself. It’s the motivation and drive to be the best you can be and never settling for less while being appreciative for what you already have and how far you have come.
If you are the type of person that keeps a scale in your bathroom and starts your day looking down, this post is for you. Throw that scale away and stop looking down in order to be happy. Choose to look up instead and just BE
Do you look down?
Do You Look Down?