I am out to dinner with friends and as we all sit down to look at menus someone says, “I really want to eat healthier.” Someone else says, “I want to get into shape.” The waiter comes, takes orders and I hear things like
pizza, fish and chips, a burger with fries being ordered. This is the same table that just all spoke about their wants to be better and yet in a split second they are choosing to not put action to their words.
It’s frustrating. People telling me what they want and then doing something different. You want to be leaner but then you eat fast food. You want to be healthier but then you drink alcohol every night. You want to feel better but then you stay up late. You want more money but then you spend too much money. You want to be happy but you complain about unhappy stuff. You want peace but you allow things to steal your peace. You want love but then you push love away. Sound familiar?
Make up your mind. Write down what you want and how to get it. Then don’t do anything else that would prevent you from having what you want. Don’t sway from your decision. Stay focus on what you want and do something about it besides talking about it. You want health – then work on it. You want happiness – then work on it. You want peace – then work on it.
Here are some of my favorite holiday “freebies” that can keep you healthy and happy.
1) Make homemade coupon books to give to your loved ones as gifts. No money spent, no bills to pay – the gift of giving is FREE!
2) Make gingerbread houses, bake-decorate-enjoy time with your kids. Display the house so you cannot eat it – baking is fat FREE!
3) Donate your family’s time at an animal shelter. Give the permanent volunteers a break during the holidays and get your “Awe it’s so cute” fix for FREE!
4) Map out where all the lighted decorated houses are in your neighborhood. Walk to them and bypass all the traffic, no gas used – it’s FREE!
5) Attending holiday parties with way too much food? Bring containers with you to take leftovers to homeless. You can’t find any homeless? Check the mall entries and exits. Give away your carbohydrates – it’s FREE!
6) Traveling a lot? Stock up on all the bath products that you get in hotels and drop them off at any shelter. The cost to you – FREE!
7) Want to keep a drink in hand at a party? Soda water with a small candy cane to stir. 60 calories that I am sure you will burn walking around at a party. FYI- it takes about 15min of walking to burn off about 60cal.
Ultimately when the holidays are over you won’t need to “start” your diet or pay your bills. You will be calorie and debt FREE! To me that is Free-ing!!
I am going to admit it, I am a good trainer. I am knowledgeable in many exercises, fitness equipment, stretches, yoga poses, etc. I stay current on diet trends and study the nutritional constants. I am very thorough with all the physical aspects of my job and I feel there are many people out there that are good as well. What I do isn’t rocket science and as of right now those who choose to work in my field of personal training can buy a book, study, take an exam and be certified. So there are many of us to choose from.
What am I getting at? You can always find a trainer. But what you can’t always find is the “personal” part of a personal trainer. That’s the part that isn’t in the book to study. That’s the part that has no test for. That’s the part that I am the BEST at. I may be good at training but I am the best at personal-ing. Which is the first part of my job title.
You can easily replace my training ability with another trainer, with group classes, an online trainer, an app, a video, a YouTube, etc. You CANNOT replace my personal attention to your needs, my compassion towards your
health struggles and my understanding of your being: mind, body, spirit.
What I have, they don’t teach. What I offer, is not found in many. What I can do for you and with you, is NOT replaceable. I am a PERSONAL trainer and not only am I really good at what I do, you will not find anyone like me.
I ask a lot of clients to keep a Fitness Journal. They dread it because they have to write down EVERYTHING. I hear, “This is a pain in the a_ _.” I understand that but people need to be accountable in order for success. My clients who want to see significant changes in their body must track everything they are eating, doing, thinking and feeling. In my experience when people take the time to write (use paper and pen, not an ipad or their phone or an app), put in the effort and feel comfortable sharing with me – those people have the most success but this is not always the case. Plenty of clients will write very little so then I have to ask questions, inquire more and literally “drill them”. I don’t like doing that but in order to have success with anything, you have to be held accountable. You have to be honest. You must be able to admit what you have done.
So many people will cut me off and say something like ,”It’s nothing” or “I can’t remember” or “It was no big deal”. They always say it very defensively to which raises the “red flag”. Thats when my radar goes up and I feel like my client is hiding something.
At one point you will be held accountable for your actions. If not with me, then with someone else or some higher power. We all answer to someone or something. It’s called your conscience. You must be be honest with what you do. Could you watch a video tape of yourself and be proud of what you saw? You have to be okay at looking at who you are. Can you look in the mirror without criticism or cynicism? You have to be accepting of answering to those who care about you. Can you talk vulnerably with your loved ones without being defensive? This my friends is called being accountable.
Around this time of the year people are always telling me that they are waiting for the “1st of the year” to start their diet, to join a gym, begin yoga, hire a trainer, etc. I hear, “It’s the holidays so I just want to wait.”
Guess what? Thanksgiving and Christmas are TWO days. There will always be some day or some thing that will come between you and your goals if you let it. Why give the holidays the power to alter your health or how you feel about yourself? Why give up the control over your life?
I am here to tell you that saying, “I am waiting…” Is just another EXCUSE! Think about all the things in your life that are on hold because you are “waiting”. How long have you been waiting? Maybe you are “hoping” things will change. Some of you are “wanting” it to be easier.
Waiting, Hoping, Wanting are words that give you permission to do no action. They will hold you in a state of purgatory. They are EXCUSE words that release you of responsibility and give all the power to the unknown. In other words you are powerless and the goals you have will not be met if you keep saying, “I am waiting” or “I am hoping” or “I am wanting”.
I encourage you to take a look at what you NEED right now that will make you healthy and then do it TODAY! No more waiting for the 1st of the year, the next month, this week to be over or tomorrow. Stop excusing yourself for being essentially unhappy and unhealthy.
Instead of waiting for the 1st, tell yourself that you will have your goal in place by the 1st. Write down three things that need to be done to make your goal happen and have them all checked off before the 1st. Meaning you will already have had 40 plus days of working towards your goal instead of 40 days of waiting, hoping and wanting.
It’s been several days since I have been to the gym. I know, I know- I work at a gym. I even have a gym at home. Don’t get me wrong. I have exercised. I have gone for runs. I sit on my bike at work and get all my emails and paperwork done. I stretch, foam roll and do yoga all on my own. BUT – nothing is like going to “the gym”. It’s my escape!
As soon as I park my car I put my headphones on. I sing as I strut myself into the gym. Entering the gym I feel as if I am walking into my childhood home, “I am home.” Lock my stuff up and head to the gym floor. I find a
piece of cardio equipment available and jump on. I am not picky. Look through my playlist for the ONE inspirational song of the day to repeat 3-4 times so I can get a quick 10 min warm up. That song is my mantra, my chant, my theme. After that I literally check out. I stare off into space. I look pass people. I feel nothing but my heart rate getting faster. I hear nothing but my music and breath. I see nothing but sweat dripping off of me. I have escaped!
So now you have my secret. I head to the gym to escape. It’s healthier than a cocktail. It’s cheaper than a vacation.
Sometimes when I am training a client the exercises I am giving them aren’t working. Sometimes when I am offering nutritional guidance, my suggestions are not working. Sometimes I feel like I am at a loss, like I just don’t know what to do. One exercise gives them pain. Another exercise they don’t feel it in the right place. One diet makes them tired. One diet makes them hungry. Why isn’t it working?
So I follow these three guidelines to things that aren’t working.
1) When I am not sure – I retreat
2) When I don’t know – I research
3) When I can’t do anymore – I refer out
When my efforts are not working I step back. I look at the client carefully – their gait, their posture, their movement, their stillness. I take a birds eye view of what is going on. I try to see a different perspective. I look at myself as a trainer and see how I might be missing something.
When I am not sure what to do I ask. I ask the client. I inquire. I go through their entire day and diet again as if they were a new client. I seek advice of others. I read. I write. I study.
When I feel that I have exhausted my means, I suggest they seek a different professional. I am confident that I give my all and work diligently to help but sometimes what someones needs is not better but just different.
I don’t know why it isn’t working but I do know that I won’t waste your time. I will retreat, research and refer out if needed. In other words – I will walk away, get help and say “Goodbye” if it isn’t working.
When you walk into LisaFIT it’s because you want me to help you, that is a vulnerable place to be in. When we start talking about why you haven’t met your goals on your own, it is a very emotional discussion. When you start training with me it is a very intimate setting because it is just you and I. The whole process is challenging and it requires compassion, empathy and a lot of sensitivity on both of our parts.
Recently I was told that I am “too sensitive” and it was not the first time nor do I think it will be the last time. I use to take offense to those words. Now that I am older I take it as a compliment although it is never said to me in a kind voice. I grew up being called “too sensitive”. I was sad watching “Charlotte’s Web”. It made me sensitive to what happens to animals in order for us to eat them. My parents said, “Just don’t think about it and eat your food!”. At school I was bullied from second grade to seventh grade. My sister would yell at the kids. My parents would tell me to ignore them. I was hurt because people were mean. It made me more sensitive to the words that I say to other people and how much they can hurt. I used to watch the news in the morning and hear about the deaths, accidents and illnesses. I felt terrible for those people and anyone who had to endure such pain. I was told in a matter of fact sort of way, “Death happens everyday”, which to me seemed an insensitive thing to say even if it is a fact. Still today if the song, “Same Love” comes on I tear up because I cannot imagine being hated for who I love.
So I understand that to the rest of the world I am “too sensitive”. I am affected by they way we treat animals. I am hurt by the words people say not just to me but to each other and behind close doors. I pause my breath every time I hear of a death. I let things effect me which makes me “too sensitive” by majority but who is to say that the majority is right. My sensitivity allows me to be vulnerable, emotional and intimate with clients, friends and family. Can you say the same for you? How many of you choose to “not think about it” to make yourself less
sensitive? How many of you yell through your emotions so you won’t cry? How many of you ignore to manage your hurt? How many of you have become callus to death because you hear about it all the time? How many of you hate what is unfamiliar to you? How many of you still feel the need to hold back your tears so others won’t
think you are “too sensitive”
I am home sick. Since I am not working out or going to work where I get to work out other people, I am watching people working out on The Biggest Loser. I really like this show because it clearly states the mental, emotional aspect of weight gain and loss.
The contestants work hard throughout the entire week before each weigh in. They are eating healthy. They are exercising more. This all results in them feeling better about themselves. Some report their cholesterol is better. Others say they are no longer at risk for diabetes. They have more energy, less pain and an overall better sense of health and wellness. But all of that seems to not matter when they stand on the scale and see their weight. That’s the part I don’t like. The negative feelings they carry when they haven’t lost as much weight seems to out weigh (no pun intended) all their hard work. I know it’s tv but those feelings weigh heavy on a person and that matters.
It’s a sad shame that we see them so down when they are truly in a better emotional and physical state. For almost the entire hour we get to witness their strengths both in and out of the gym. We watch them triumph over struggles. We hear them say how happy they are with themselves. That’s what matters!
If you are trying to lose weight please focus on what matters. How well do you sleep? How much water do you drink? How many vegetables do you eat a day? How strong do you feel? How well do you manage your stress? All of those matter “weigh” more than what the scale reads.
I encourage you to watch the show but understand –