Are You A Healthy Choice Hater? (Part 1)
It has been brought to my attention on SEVERAL occasions that people spend too much time “hating” on other peoples’ healthy choices. My clients tell me all the time that they catch “shit” for not participating in the eating and drinking festivities. They feel pressured in ordering a cocktail at work events held in a bar. They get teased for ordering a salad at a dinner party. They feel shunned when they don’t sample a dessert. They get a guilt trip for not taking seconds at a family potluck. They hear things like, “One day isn’t going to kill you” and “It’s the holidays” or “You can have one cheat day, right?”
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?
Why are you so consumed with the person in your life who wants to make a healthy choice? Would you pressure a coworker at a bar to order a cocktail if they were a recovering alcoholic? Would you tease your friend for ordering a salad if she was fighting obesity? Would you shun your partner for not eating dessert if he was diagnosed with diabetes? Would you give a guilt trip to your sibling for not taking seconds if he was trying to reduce his cholesterol? Do we have to wait until something bad happens to be respectful, compassionate and tolerant of other people’s choices?
If you know someone trying to make or is making healthy choices for WHATEVER reason, please be supportive. A person shouldn’t have to be an addict, ill or diseased to receive respect, compassion and tolerance for making a change for the better. In fact, go an extra step further and join them. Misery loves company but Healthy lives Happier!
It’s a strange place of purgatory that we exist in sometimes, waiting for something better. It’s where you know what you are doing isn’t your calling. It’s how you know that where you are at isn’t your destination. It’s the gut feeling you get when you who lay down with someone who isn’t right for you. It’s the empty void you have that you can’t seem to fill because you are waiting for something better.
Please do not exist here. It isn’t what life is all about. I hear about it from people all the time in regards to their health and wellness. You are not happy with yourself so you become cynical. You don’t like what you see in the mirror so you just don’t look. You aren’t proud of who you are so you hide. All the time just waiting for something better.
I am here to remind you that your life starts when you stop waiting. I am here to push you so that you break through whatever wall you have put between you and better. I am here to nag at you until you show me something other than mundane. I won’t let you stay unhappy. No one hides on my watch. I am here and I don’t walk away without a fight. Be happy, look in the mirror, be proud.
This is my morning. I get up at 430AM and do some sort of cardio to get my sweat on. I shower while listening to NPR. I drive to work while eating a piece of Ezekiel bread with peanut butter and drinking a cup of coffee. The streets are quiet and dark so I roll my windows down and play my music loudly. By the time I get to work most of you are still asleep and some of you are getting out of bed. Sometimes I am tired but most of the times I am lonely. No one gets to share my mornings with me.
I may not like getting up at 430AM every morning. I don’t always want to exercise while the rest of the world sleeps. I would love to be able to sit down and eat breakfast at a table or sip coffee in bed. It would be nice not driving to work while it’s still dark. But I do all of this because I know how hard it is to do alone. Trust me, I do it every morning and I don’t expect you to do it alone.
What if it were different? What if you got up because you knew someone was waiting for you? What if you weren’t the only one awake exercising? What if your bed head made others laugh? What if wearing your shirt inside out was a common funny? What if you could come to a place where other people wanted to see you? What if you could share your morning?
That is how it has been for the past 3 years for people at LisaFIT. I have shared my mornings with people who would have been strangers if it weren’t for LisaFIT. I get to watch them act like siblings, ganging up on me. I get to see them grow bonds over the pains of being pushed. I get to listen to them commiserate about dreading another workout. I get to witness them be a fitness family for one hour. A part of me is envious but most of all, I am blessed because I get to share someone else’s morning.
Here is what I keep with me at the gym. I am never without filtered water – thanks to Zero Water, built in filter water bottles. I keep a Perform Better resistance band for corrective exercises – yes I too experience pain, a jump rope for instant cardio, Target wipes to keep dirt off my face, Burt’s Bees lip balm – love the peppermint one, my music, extra hair ties and a container of Altoids which is really holding my business cards. This little bag keeps me prepared for anything.
Like my bag, I am prepared for anything at the gym and in my studio. You can come to me with just about any issue and I can figure out a workout for you. I like to think that it’s basically me reaching into my bag of tricks. My studio is my other “bag of tricks”. I have TRX, BOSU, ActiveMotion Bars, Spin Bikes, Exercise Balls, Cables, Resistance Bands, Weights, Yoga Mats, Blocks, Straps, Foam Rollers, Trigger Points Balls and a Total Gym. Whatever you need, I am prepared for the person that wouldn’t normally step into a gym. I am ready for the client that needs motivation. I am here for the consumer that has tried every fitness trend. I put a lot of thought into my bag of tricks and hand pick everything that goes into my studio. It is a personal trainer’s dream to be able to create this space, a space where I can literally say to you, “You have NO EXCUSES!”
For four years you have been there for me. You have made me feel stronger when I felt weak. You have made me laugh when I was in a bad mood. You have motivated me when I was ready to quit. You have inspired me when I checked out. You keep passion in my world. You bring me intimacy. You are my love.
I love having LisaFIT. It has made me the person I am today. Every morning I walk in, switch on lights, turn on the music and DANCE with gratitude and happiness. I am truly blessed to be a part of so many peoples’ lives. I am thankful that you come back day after day. I am honored that you trust me to be your partner in the race of health and wellness. I am filled with joy that I get to walk, talk, share, experience fitness with you.
To all of you, past, present and future clients – those of you who wonder how do I stay so excited about working out. How does she do it? I do it because of YOU! I do it because I am super jazzed that you chose me. I do it because it is amazing that out of all the trainers out there, you picked me. I do it because YOU make me a better me.
Happy Four Years LisaFIT!!I can’t think of any other relationship that has graced me with so much laughter, tears, stories and experiences. If only the walls could talk…
The other day a client says to me, “I am sorry but I cheated on you.” I asked, “How did you do that?” Client proceeds to tell me that she went to another fitness facility. She explains how the whole time all she could do is hear in her head me saying things like, “Bend at your knees. Pull in your stomach muscles. Keep your shoulders down.” I told her that it was a good thing that she heard those cues in her head. It’s called your “Fitness Conscience”. She continues to say, “The problem is – I didn’t do any of those things. I cheated.” So I say, “You didn’t cheat on me – you cheated yourself.”
So here is the “down low” on cheating on me. I am your trainer. I give you the tools to workout effectively on your own. I show you how you can modify exercises to accommodate your body. I teach you to be aware of your specific body compensations. I inform you on all the do’s and don’ts that apply to you obtaining your fitness goals. I hold you accountable. I trust you. What I don’t do – I don’t expect you to workout with just me. You can’t cheat on me BUT you can cheat yourself.
Like my client experienced, she had all the knowledge to get an effective workout that would max out her body’s potential and truly make it a challenging class. She knew what to do and chose not to do it. Once you know better and you choose to not do better – then it’s on you, not on me. It isn’t me that you should be apologizing to, it is yourself. I did my job and I did it well because you heard in your head what you should be doing. I can’t control what you choose to do. I can’t make you do better on your own. All I can do is ask you to figure out this answer, “Why didn’t you choose to do what is right?” That is the key question in the equation of cheating.
I want you to be proud of your actions. I want you to feel empowered making choices. I want you to be happy when you look in the mirror. I want you to be at peace when you lay down at night. These are all factors in being healthy and well. That is what I want as a trainer, as a friend, as a partner and as a parent. We all have that little voice that tells us what to do to be healthy and well. It is up to you listen.
You really have NO EXCUSES!!
Do You Try New Things?
I thought I would film myself trying a new protein bar. I love the ingredients. They are made here in San Diego. Right now they are on sale, 2 for $5.00 at Vons. I am sorry that the video stopped before you could see my response to the other two flavors. I didn’t want to “reshoot” the video because then it wouldn’t be you seeing me try the bar for the first time. Let’s just say, the other two bar flavors got the same response from me.
KOOG company, if you are watching this please contact me – we should talk.
Here is a conversation with a client of mine I had the other day.
Client says, “You know the strangest thing happened the other day – you probably won’t think it is strange but I did.”
I say “Ooooo-kaaay…do tell.”
Client says, “You know i have to take my blood pressure all the time now because it is so high and the doctor’s want me to keep it in check, right? Well the other day I came home from work and took my pressure. It was pretty high so I did what you told me to do. I laid down and put one hand on my stomach and one hand on my chest and practiced those deep breaths. I thought I would do that before taking more medication.”
I say, “The diaphragmatic breaths? Those are great for calming someone down. Were you stressed?”
Client says, “Ahhh…it’s work and there is always stress. So anyway I laid there for a good ten minutes just trying to breath deep and BOY that is really hard! Do you know what happened when I took my blood pressure again?! You probably know.”
I say, “You felt better and your BP was down?”
Client says, “I know – isn’t it crazy!?! I mean it doesn’t make sense.”
I say, “Don’t underestimate the power of breath.”
Sometimes we forget that we have the power to help ourselves. We are so quick to take medication and let drugs have all the power. We are so quick to get cut into and allow doctors to have all the power. We are so quick to look elsewhere for the answer when sometimes all along we have the answer, the cure, the power to do it ourselves. Can it be as easy as breathing?
How Do You Get Through Your Morning Workout?
Sometimes a good playlist isn’t enough. Have you been there? Where you feel unmotivated?? Where you are mentally drained that it has oozed into your physical being?? Where you just don’t know how you are going to get through another day, regardless of a workout or not??
So either you have your own private gym like me and can set up your favorite morning brew along with an entertaining television show OR you come to Spin Pump!
Spin Pump is every 630AM, Monday/Wednesday/Friday mornings. It is the best way to get through your workout. The 60 minutes goes by super fast because the music is pumping, people are chatting, weights are moving and bodies are sweating. Before you know it, the hour is done and you can check exercise off your list for the day.
Come join us in October with a new instructor, Chris. Totally well versed in motivating you and getting you to enjoy your workouts. Your first class is always free. Contact me to reserve your spin spot. I still want you to get a lot of personal attention in a group setting so the class maximum is six participants – RSVP is a must.
In less than 30 days I will be celebrating another year on earth. I am one of those rare people that embrace getting older. I look at it as a time to reflect on all the amazing experiences that have changed me and the incredible people who have inspired me. Its a chance to learn from the not so memorable times and a great opportunity to walk away from those who have wronged me. I always like to do something for myself in recognizing another year of life that is connected to health and wellness. This year I am taking the days up to my birthday to “cleanse”.
I am not a big advocate of the cleanses out there where you drink nothing but water and lemon or the ones where you travel to a remote location to fast with other people or even the programs where you eat only raw foods. I think of cleansing as more of an intimate process than purely just what you are ingesting or where you are residing. Cleansing is both an elimination – letting go and a rejuvenation – a fresh start. It can be the end of a bad habit and it can be the beginning of a new process. It doesn’t happen in a three day fast or a five day raw diet. It isn’t about taking a pill or drinking a tea or paying for expensive juices. It is about you recognizing your own impurities, understanding your poisons, acknowledging the toxic people and being ready to do what is necessary to CLEAN HOUSE.
I am going be cleaning out everything and anything that no longer serves a purpose in my life. That means I am cleaning out closets, going through my computer, rummaging through my garage AND wiping out contacts. It is a great way to literally “clean house”. I am going to take on a plant based diet. There is something rather therapeutic and medicinal about eating only what grows straight from earth’s soil. Plus vegetables and fruits have a natural high fiber and high antioxidant property to them, aiding in elimination and rejuvenation. I am adding hot yoga to my exercise ritual to purge and to release tightness. I am going back outside for longer runs and rides to clear my head and aid in mental focus. I am avoiding caffeine and alcohol, wish me luck!
If you could do something for 30 days that would have a profound affect on your life, what would it be? If you did a “cleanse” – what would you want to get rid of? If you could start fresh, what would you do?
Join me. Why not? We can do it together. I will post all my runs and yoga outings on Instagram or Twitter (lisayeefit). You can have all my veggie dishes if you keep checking my website. OR come to LisaFIT – lets CLEANSE and then come October 1st we will CELEBRATE the new us!