If you live with this statement, “I don’t have enough self control to give up _____” then please read this post!
I had this text-versation today. It took me going upside down, literally changing my perspective to reply to this. Self control in the world of diet and fitness always seems to go straight to the dark side. People say, “I don’t have self control to say ‘NO'” or “I don’t have self control to stop.” I have never heard anyone say, “I have SO MUCH self control” or “I LOVE having self control.”
As a fitness trainer I don’t have any special tricks or certain tools to gain self control either. As a health and wellness coach I can tell you that self control is about “control” and “restraint”. I don’t know about you but those two words don’t normally send me to a warm and fuzzy place. I tend to feel limited when things are always controlled and denied when there are restraints. If that resonates with you then self control is felt as a negative thing and of course you aren’t going to want that.
So back to our original statement, “I don’t have enough self control to give up _____”. Why not acknowledge that statement, let it run through your mind and allow it to sit somewhere quietly. How about making THIS statement
louder, “I have enough self motivation to get or gain what I want which is _____.” One statement is about what you don’t have and giving up. The other statement is about what you do have and gaining. Do you understand that? Every time you are in a situation you feel you do not have self control, sit down and text me – I am SERIOUS, PLEASE TEXT ME these words “I have enough self motivation to get what I want which is _______(fill in the blank)” I promise if you can make the “this is what I have” and “this is what I get” louder than “this is what I don’t have” and “this is what I can’t have” THEN you will be on your way to finding some peace with your trying situations that require “self control”.
Do you want self control?