I met a new client last week. He walks in and hands me my paperwork and says, “I didn’t fill it out because I am not ready to commit but don’t worry – I will pay you.” I say, “I am not asking for a commitment.” When a person walks into my studio, there are no contracts to sign, membership levels or commitments to hold you down. All I ask is that you listen with an open mind and I will listen with an open heart, that you do what you say and I will do exactly what I say, that you tell me what you want so I can do whatever I can to help you and in trade you do whatever it is necessary to help yourself.
This is a relationship between you and I, the only binding “contract” or commitment is your conscience. My new client decided to fill out the paperwork at the end of the session. I said, “You sure you want to do that? How do you know I am ready to commit?”
Are you ready to commit?
Yesterday I posted an ad for organic foods on sale at a local market. I since have made my grocery list or what I like to call, plan of attack.
I call it a plan of attack because when I walk into a grocery store I feel like I have to be ready, be prepared, be strong. I have to get pass the chip aisle, the bottles of wine and even at checkout there are the chocolates. Lastly I like to make sure that I buy what’s on sale and not get distracted by pretty packaging or what’s “new”. So – I walk into a grocery store with a plan of attack.
It’s pretty much like that in all areas of my life that I want to succeed in. I have found that if I sit down and write out what I want and all the details on how to get what I want, then I have a better chance of succeeding. Versus if I don’t write it down and just jump right into something hoping I will do it right or thinking that I have it all in my head – the outcome is usually bleak.
For instance if you walk into your grocery store without a list, how many of you walk out saying “Oh shoot I forgot …..” or thought, “How in the world did I spend so much money?” Or last but not least and my personal favorite, “I just walked in to get a few things …..”
You need a plan of attack. You need one for the grocery shopping, for buying a house, saving for retirement and even taking a vacation. There needs to be something written down holding you accountable for what you want. You need to think it, write it, see it and be able to check it off your list when you are done.
What’s your list? Or plan of attack?
This week I am away for a Personal Trainer conference. I am already lined up to learn from the best. I have meetings with trainers from all over the country, I get to workout with exercise gurus. I feel very fortunate to be amongst the elite. Not only do I get to be around other trainers but I get to be with “my kind”. For four days I am the norm. I won’t stand out when I get to the gym at 5AM. In fact the hotel gym will be packed with people like me wanting to move before having to sit all day long. I won’t be the only one stretching on the ground during the lectures. I won’t be the only one carrying a cooler of food around. I won’t be the only one drinking a protein shake in-between seminars. I can’t tell you how refreshing it will be to finally “fit in”.
In my day to day life I am always feeling like the odd man out. I get up while people are sleeping so that I can start my day sweating and giving to myself. My fridge is stocked with all my meals and snacks for the week so that I don’t get caught hungry or not having enough time to make food. I sit on the ground and stretch while watching my kids sports instead of sitting on a chair playing on my phone. I don’t make meal time a big deal in my home as to teach my children that our days don’t revolve around food. I know I am weird and odd but in my line of business guess what – I fit in.
So from Wednesday to Saturday I will be loving every moment that someone DOES NOT say to me, “You are crazy for getting up so early.” I will be smiling every time someone DOES NOT ask me, “What are you drinking?” I will be so happy when I DO NOT get weird looks at me while I stretching on the floor. I will be amongst my own. For four days no one will look twice, think twice or even care.
I will fit in!
Do you fit in?
I recently bought a bike to ride along the coast and give me an alternative to driving my car. It’s been so nice to jump on my bike and go for a ride whenever I need to get out. I don’t have to worry about traffic. I am in no rush. I am on my own schedule. I get to be one with the road, check in to my music and just ride. My rides have been rewarding, enjoyable and so far solo.
I have put on a lot of miles on my bike since purchased and I realize that I am feeling a little lonely. I ride pass big groups of cyclists meeting up at coffee shops and juice bars. At stop signs I watch partner cyclists gather, talk and chuckle. I see couples on tandem bikes. I view families biking together to have a picnic at the beach.
I keep thinking that it would be nice to share these rides. I want to stop and get a cup of coffee with someone. I want to talk about the routes we will take. I want to share the sights we will see. It would have been nice to have someone with me when I fell into the street or under the bridge or at the stop light (none of my proudest moments). It would feel good to endure the hills breathing hard next to another. It would feel even better coasting the down slopes with the wind blowing past us. I realized that I can do solo but I want to ride double.
Being solo won’t stop me from riding. It won’t take from my joy of being outside, listening to my tunes and absorbing the sunshine. I will keep on pedaling. I just know that these journeys would be a total different experience if I weren’t solo. Like anything, it is always better to have someone to share the journey. It is comforting to endure the ups and downs with someone by your side. It is reassuring that if you fall, there is someone there to pick you up. It is nice to be able to get to the top of the hill, look back and say, “Wow – we made it!”
Do you ride solo?
Do I Make You Better
Here is a beautiful photo of my lovely daughter presenting me with a Valentines card. Her class did a generic card but my daughter requested to do a second card that was special to our family. She told me that she loves how healthy we are. She said she appreciates how I always want to walk instead of drive even though she complains. She continued to tell me that she likes how I am always buying organic and healthy foods even though they don’t always taste good. I told her, “I just want you to be better.”
Later that week I heard from an acquaintance that she wasn’t happy with her trainer. I asked, “Is he helping you to be better?” She said, “No- I have to figure out how to break up with him.”
Another person walked into my gym to say, “Hi”. He said he has always wanted to check out my studio. He currently trains with another trainer but isn’t happy with him. I asked the same question, “Is he helping you to be better?” He said, “No but I would feel bad firing him.”
As a parent it’s hard to get my kids to do the healthy option but I stand my ground because I want them to be better. As a trainer it’s hard to not give the clients what they want but again I stand my ground because I am trying to make them better.
Doing and being better is so challenging because it’s easy to just keep or stay the same. It’s easier to just sit than to get up and move. It’s easier to just stay where you are than to walk away. It’s easier to complain and not do anything about it. It’s easier to just eat whatever you want without thinking about what it is you need.
We all need to be better. We should all be striving to do better. Look to your left and to your right. Are the people in your daily world helping to make you better? Do they inspire you to do good? Do they help you to do your best? Do they motivate you with their actions to become better? Like my daughters card, “I love you because you make me strong.” If your world isn’t making you stronger then stand up now and make your move. Don’t wait. Don’t settle. Be strong and be better!
Do I make you better?
2 Large Red Peppers
1 package of Hormone Free Ground Turkey
½ c. Fresh Organic Basil
1 tbs. Minced Garlic
¾ c. Vegan Mozzarella Cheese
2 c. Marinara Sauce
Heat oven to 375 degrees.
Cut tops off peppers and discard insides. Boil in pot big enough to cover peppers for 10 minutes. While peppers are boiling, brown turkey meat with garlic until done. In mixing bowl combine meat, fresh basil, ½ c of cheese, and 1 c. Tomato Sauce. Spray small baking dish with non-stick spray, Place peppers in dish. (the dish should be small enough that peppers can stand up on there own without falling over) Fill Peppers to the top with meat mixture. Add a Tablespoon of sauce to top of each pepper, then pour remainder of sauce in dish around peppers. Add remainder of cheese to top of peppers and place in oven to bake for 30 minutes.
Am I Right for You
In the photo can you see the person on the left sitting down using his phone. That person is the trainer. There is another person on the right side of the photo sitting on a mat, she is the client. The client was stretching in a way that was not as efficient as it could be. The other day when I was parking in Coronado I saw a guy yelling at a handful of women in the park. He was standing about 10 feet away from them saying, “Keep going, 5 more, 4 more,..” Everyone was doing pushups and either struggling or cheating.
I don’t look at any of these trainers as bad trainers just different from me. They are totally and utterly different from me. I am not able to watch you do something without showing you ways to do it better. I am not able to stand back when you look like you need help. I cannot be in your space while you are doing something that could potentially hurt you later on. It is super hard for me to stay quiet, bite my tongue, look away or ignore. Lastly, there is no way I would motivate you or say, “Keep going” if what you are doing is wrong for you. I can’t be that person but there a lot of them out there.
The way I am may not be for you and that is okay. I am an in your face, intense, don’t let you get away with anything, call you on your S–T type of trainer and type of person . I am not easy going or laid back. And for most of you, I am way too much . I get that.
Luckily for my studio, there are three other trainers that might be a better fit for you. Check them out and give them a try. They are all offering free consultations and some do a free trial workout. You never know, they might be better for you.
Am I right for you?
simple and easy
I have “found” that most things are simple and easy. They just require consistent effort with boundaries and positive energy with no boundaries. We make things complicated by over thinking, endless analyzing and continuous wondering. Our minds create unnecessary stress by holding onto what we have no control of. We makes things difficult by going full blown, 100 miles per hour and never stopping. Our bodies are not designed to go non stop. We will eventually end up with illness or injury. So why not do less?
Like these little bands – They are a great workout. There is no heavy lifting and no risk for injury. They take up very little space so you can travel with them. They are simple and easy but rarely ever seen in gyms or used by trainers. When I bring them out my clients cringe. NO ONE likes the bands because guess what? These simple and easy colorful rubber pieces are an intense workout. They are simple to use but require consistent effort utilizing small stabilizing muscles. Your big muscles can’t take over. You can’t sink into your joints. There is no cheating with these guys. They are easy to use because you can bring them with you. You can pack them in a suitcase. They are simple and easy.
Try making things simple and easy in your life for a change. Start by doing these two things:
1) Set boundaries for yourself when it comes to working, spending money and even training your body. Give yourself a limit and do no more.
2) Program your mind to seeing the good in all, the positive in the situation and the happiness in each choice you make.
Can you do simple and easy?
There are three categories that all foods fall into.
1) Fluff: This is the food that you want to eat but should not eat. Its the food that gets advertised by fast food companies to make your mouth water. It’s the appetizers and the desserts. It’s the food that we tend to “stuff” ourselves with because it tastes so good.
2) Fillers: Fillers are the foods that are low carb, nonfat, sugar free, etc. They are overly processed to taste like Fluff. They are chemically designed to give you the taste of something that you want to eat but don’t want the calories, fat, sugar, etc. Not only do they have no nutritional value but often times the ingredients can harm you.
3) Fuel: This is the food that gives you the best form of energy because it has the purest of ingredients. These foods come from the earth. You don’t need a dictionary to understand their ingredients, nor do you need a magnifying glass to see the ingredients.
-Know every ingredient that you put into your mouth.
-Choose water 90% of the time as your beverage.
-Eat half of your calories from vegetables and fruit.