Clients are so impatient about seeing results especially when losing weight. The number one result indicator is standing on the scale. I say throw that away. The number two result indicator is looking in the mirror. I don’t
promote doing that because what we see is subjective. I prefer clients to use how their clothing feels and measurements but the ultimate indicator is when someone notices your results and says something to you.
So I have been surfing again. Some days I feel I am getting better and other days I feel like I am getting worse. Either way I get into the ocean and paddle and stand and fall and kneel and wipe out. I go to the same beach, usually at around the same time and see a lot of the same people. Today the life guard told me, “You are really getting better.” I was beaming!
A lot of times we don’t see what everyone else does. We can’t see the results we are making because we are our worse critics. It’s is so nice when someone else recognizes it and is open enough to tell you.
I have been there. You want to work out, but by the time you get to the gym, its time to change a diaper or feed a baby. Then you have to prioritize what to get done during nap time. New mothers have a window of opportunity to get in time for themselves and it comes few and far between.
One of the best things about having LisaFIT is that new moms feel comfortable to bring their babies, nurse them and tend to them without feeling like they are bothering other people. Plus, they know I am a mother of three and there is nothing that a baby or child can do in my presence that will throw me off my “game”.
Calling all new moms, if you want your body back guess what? You have NO EXCUSES! Bring your baby here, workout while they are awake so you don’t lose precious nap time and I will help you get what you deserve.
I have your “back”. When you feel like you need to drop the weights, I am right there carrying some of the load. When you think you can’t go any longer on the bike, I am right there cheering you on. When you think you aren’t able to stretch further, I am right there breathing with you to go deeper. I have your back!
I can only be the trainer I am because I have a team of people who have my “back”. They are here to help, heal, aid, inform and care for me with no ill intention or ulterior motive. It is the best feeling when I can go to someone for help and feel that they genuinely care. I don’t feel judged. I don’t feel competition. I don’t feel they
just want my money. I feel pure support and honest intentions.
Recently I have had to go back to my acupuncturist for neck and back pain. She literally has my back and then some. My session the other day had me in tears which normally a lot of people would be embarrassed. Instead I felt comfortable
to release my need to fight my tears. Instead of holding back my emotion, I was in a space to let it go.
A lot of clients do the same in my studio and I am here to say that it’s a good thing! We need a safe space to just let go and not hide. We all need someone who has our back.
I can’t believe it. In the ocean a surfer just said to me, “You wussed out! You had that wave and then you just stopped paddling. Why did you do that?”
In my head, it just doesn’t feel right. Me, board and a wave just seems like an equation for injury. Letting water propel my body while I stand on a long piece of fiberglass just scares the S- – T out of me. Then I realized that I was saying the same things my clients say. “It doesn’t feel right.” “I don’t want to feel pain or get hurt.” “I am scared.” And what do I tell them? It’s not going to feel right because you haven’t done it long enough. You are going to feel some pain, its part of the process and everything of value comes with chances of getting hurt. You can be scared but don’t let that change what you are doing.
I don’t want to wuss out. I don’t want to miss more opportunities to do things that are new or coming my way. I don’t want to let the thought of getting hurt stop me from experiencing life. I don’t want to let fear dictate my future. So here I go back into the ocean to catch a wave!
Lately my body has felt sluggish. My runs feel heavy. My mind wanders off in yoga class. I find myself unmotivated. I still set my alarm and do my early cardio. I still pack my gym clothes and hit the weights every afternoon. I still manage to get 1-2 yoga classes in a week but I am just going through the motion, cruise control and it isn’t fun nor do I feel passionate and that in itself is disturbing my life – no passion.
So instead of doing the same thing over and over expecting to shake my “rut” I have decided to do something about it. I could easily stop all activity and think I need a break. I could probably say, “it will work itself out” and take no ownership in what is happening but where is the passion? I would still be going through the motion in “hopes” it comes back. Instead I am switching things up.
My morning cardio is now an early morning yoga flow on my patio with a playlist of 80′s “slow jams” which means there will be a lot of singing too. I now jump rope and do abdominal crunches in between each exercise to kick up my heart rate and get in more abs. I am taking surf lessons again. I need passion in my life. Even if it comes in little spurts like singing a song, feeling my heart beat, experiencing something new. I need it in my life or else I feel like I am in a rut.
You can work out all you want but unless your body is in correct postural alignment you won’t be able to maximize your efforts. Days in the gym and you don’t see as much muscle tone. Hours doing cardio and you may never see abdominals. Maybe you aren’t sure why you keep injuring yourself. Alignment is the key.
You must be aligned in the gym and out of the gym. Your actions have to follow your words. Your words have to be extensions of your thoughts. Your thoughts have to be waves of your dreams. Your dreams must follow your heart. It all must be aligned in order to succeed.
When I use to teach yoga inversion workshops I would tell students, “Heels, hips, heart and head must all be in one line for you to be upside down. Once that takes place, you no longer struggle. You know longer feel heavy. You feel light. You are aligned.”
Today I was informed that my friend who had cancer passed away. His struggle with the disease is over. His contemplation with what he had done, not done, who he has loved and not loved is over. His chance to be different, do different or make a difference is over. His story has ended.
Your life is not a dress rehearsal. We might not get too many chances to do what we love or be with who we love. But we are given many opportunities to make our life matter on a daily basis. We can smile at the grocery clerk. We can wave at the police officer. We can hug our child’s teacher. We can donate our time. We can volunteer our skills. We can make our life matter.
One of my favorite quotes, “I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”, by Maya Angelou.
What happens when you get to the gym and can’t find parking? What do you do when all the cardio machines are taken up? How about if you get to the gym and you forgot your socks or water bottle or ear buds? Will you leave the gym?
So many of us get aggravated and easily discouraged. We let little annoyances steal our peace. We allow small details to actually determine the way of our future goals. How many of you will honestly leave the gym, walk away from a goal or ruin a relationship?
We are constantly being tested to see how we will react. Things are put in our path to see how firmly we can stay on course. Obstacles are dropped in front of us to confirm our strength to overcome them. Dreams, Love, Goals – they don’t come easy and many will walk away owning just their excuses.
Sometimes we focus on the things we can’t do or don’t have or someone we have lost or items we have forgotten. Why is it we don’t celebrate the things we can do, the people we do have or what we have gained and all we have retained? Lets celebrate the daily accomplishments. Celebrate working out!
My runner friends, celebrate the earth that supports you. On your next run embrace that your journey outside returns a peaceful mind. My yoga friends, celebrate the postures that ignite you during your practice. Give thanks to the ancient asanas that bring new life into your soul. My gym friends, celebrate the internal strength that drives you. Be amazed at the physical opportunity to challenge your body.
Begin to celebrate your blessings rather than fixate on your losses. We were all put here for a reason, celebrate that you have the opportunity to execute that reason.