Once in a while I get a client that I have to say, “We are not a good fit.” I really don’t like doing it and it isn’t an easy conversation to have but it needs to happen. Its like any relationship, we have to be on the same page. I have to end my relationship with a client when they are hiding things from me, purposely sabotaging their goals and are disrespecting our time together.
I don’t believe in “cheating” the body so taking fat burners or steroids is not condoned in my studio. I can tell if you are doing something without you telling me. I know when you aren’t giving me all the facts about your diet without you writing it down in your journal. I can see if you have been doing your exercises when you attend your sessions with me. I know when you are hiding something from me.
When a client tells me what they want, I tell them how to get it. If they keep “complaining” they aren’t getting what they want but aren’t willing to do what is necessary to get it then our time is over. I will not fight with their biggest sabotage-er, themselves. There is no quick visit, fast diet, easy pill to take. It is all them to blame for failure or to recognize for success. Don’t sabotage yourself and blame me.
I won’t tolerate constant tardiness or absence. If you say you are going to be at my studio at a certain time then make sure you are here ready to workout. I have little patience for continuous excuses. We are all busy and stressed and pulled in several directions. I make the time to be here for you. I think about what would be best for you. I only ask that you take the time to be here for me. Respect my time.
Are we a good fit?
Are We A Good Fit?
I have been very fortunate to “run” into a different friend each day on my morning runs. It’s been such a treat to run into a smiling face. It’s been so wonderful to have the opportunity to set out on foot and know that someone is waiting to run with me.
I get up and run about 2 miles solo chilling and cruising to my playlist and new tunes. Then another 3 miles with a partner both of us sweating and talking about life, breathing and sharing space on the road. Finally the last mile alone I get to run as slow or as fast as I want all the way home.
I have never been more happy to get up and run. Running to a friend for a chance to sweat, connect and zone has been such a blessing. Thank you for running into me!
If you are on Carmel Mountain Road heading towards the dead end, Run Into Me!
Who Do You Run Into?
You can schedule appointments with me. You can swear you are working out on your own. You can create the perfect fitness journal. You can promise that you are following the nutritional guidelines. You can do all that and still not get the results you want. Do you know why? You are not being honest.
Honesty allows your mind, body and spirit to exist in the same space. Just because your mind says, “I want ….”, doesn’t mean your body is doing what it needs to get what you want. Nor does it mean that your spirit is committed to withstand temptation and sabotage that can get in the way of what you want. You have to be honest with yourself.
As your trainer, I can only do so much. My relationship with you relies on trust since I am not in your presence all the time. The truth is seen in the results gained or not gained. Honesty is seen when you look at yourself in the mirror. You don’t answer to me, you answer to yourself.
Are you being honest?
Are You Being Honest?
Every morning this week I have started my day with a cup of green juice (kale, apple, strawberry), followed by a swig of Olive Leaf Complex and then I place a sublingual B12 under my tongue. I call this “Cleaning House”.
B-12 is needed to make blood cells, produce energy and to maintain normal short-term memory and mood. It efficiently helps the body improve the functions of its immune system and work against infections caused by different harmful microorganisms.
Olive leaf is known to be a potent antioxidant and anti-inflammatory therefore warding off external and internal stressors that can cause disease and injury. It can aid in lowering blood pressure and risk of cardiovascular disease.
Kale is high in fiber and is packed with vitamins and minerals: Vitamin K, C, A plus iron, calcium and omega 3 fatty acids.
Next time you clean your car, your home, your pet or even take a shower, “Are You Really Clean?”
Are You Really Clean?
I get made fun of all the time for how I eat. My kids make faces at my blended drinks and green goulash. My friends tease me about the “rules” I have when eating after certain times. Even my clients enjoy poking fun at my choice of foods.
Here’s the deal folks- I like the way I eat. I never complain. I don’t ever make a big deal. I keep to myself unless someone asks. I can always find something on the menu. I look forward to creating super clean dishes semi raw with no added sauces. I take pleasure in eating what I know is pure fuel.
I think it’s funny that everyone else brings more attention to my food than I do. Its silly when people look disgusted at my green juice. I laugh when I get asked, “How can you eat / drink that?” I am amused at the amount of comments I get when I make a protein shake.
It’s all worth it when I see my results. Your thinking results in my body right? Wrong. I mean results as in impact that I have on others to eat better. If it means I have to be the joke in order to be the inspiration, then so be it. Laugh away!
Are You Laughing At Me?
What Do You Do When You Fall?
Here is a blurry still photo taken of my son competing for the first time in Creative Forms. What you are seeing in the photo is his response to a tumble gone wrong. He meant to do a front flip and land on his feet. Instead he landed on his bottom. At that point he had to make a decision. My son landed, pulled himself into what you see – a seated tuck. He looked up, nodded his head then jumped up, fixed his gi and made it look like it was part of his routine.
I don’t know if I would have been that composed. I am not sure if he and I are cut from the same mold. I do know that he surprised me with his ability to overcome the fall with fierceness.
Whether it be a physical fall, mental fall or emotional fall – can you get up with fierceness? Or do you let the fall keep you down?
What do you do when you fall?
There are two types of people.
There are those who are workers for today. They work day to day to get by. They survive life. They say things like, “I hope”, “I can’t”, “I hate”. They talk about other people, compare, judge and criticize. They are fixated on their sadness therefore do not know how to create happiness. They get caught up in the past wrongs which limits them from moving forward. They spend their days wondering “Why?” and sometimes their nights, “Why me?”
There are those who are makers for tomorrow. They make plans for the future. They live life. They say things like, “I will”, “I can”, “I love”. They talk about ideas, dreams, inventions and possibilities. They believe their sadness only makes them appreciate the fragility of their own happiness. They move forward by learning from their past. They spend some days marveled with the unknown and their nights fantasizing about their potential.
Are you a worker or a maker?
Worker or Maker?
Its tax season and I am going to get hit hard. My business rent went up. I am now paying more for health insurance. I have unpaid legal bills and my house hasn’t sold. I am feeling a bit overwhelmed and not exactly sure how much more I can give. I get to the gas station and a family asks me if I have some change for them to put gas in their car. For some reason that morning my immediate reaction is “No” and then I am disgusted with myself, walk over and give the family a few dollars. I get to work and open up my emails to read an email request to donate personal training sessions. I stop. I think. I should give so I reply, “Yes”. My afternoon client reschedules which turns out to be a blessing in disguise. My friend calls me up and asks if I want to participate in a spin class for charity, “Pedal the Cause”. She tells me the cost and it is more than I think I should spend right now. I say, “Maybe”. I have an hour to make up my mind. I decide to go, get to the class, pay the price, grab my freebies and jump onto a bike. The class was held outside and it was a gorgeous day. There were over 30 participants and everyone was excited to be there. It wasn’t like a normal group exercise class where people feel like they should exercise or should sweat. These people wanted to give. Some had already hit up the free beer stand. Others had repositioned their bikes so they could hold hands. Throughout the class I got to hear stories of cancer – living with it, beating it and losing from it. I know at one time my face was wet with a mixture of sweat and tears. One guest instructor repeated the words, “Because we can, because we can, because we can!”
Sometimes we need to hear we can. We can do more. We can love more. We can give more. Because we can!
That day turned out to be a beautiful day. I woke up thinking that I had nothing left to give and went to bed knowing that I can always give more.
How can you give more?
Can You Give More?
Yesterday I got to watch an IMAX film. The movie showed astronauts in space. I have very little knowledge of what it takes to become an astronaut or what its like living in a space shuttle. I do now know that within the space craft there is exercise equipment. It was great to see that there was an emphasis on staying physically fit considering the small quarters. I looked further into this and saw all sorts of contraptions created for resistance training and cardiovascular training. I watched interviews from astronauts stating that exercise was one of the things that helped to keep them feeling physically and mentally healthy during their travels, especially the long journeys.
One of the best parts of the film was when an astronaut spoke about unscrewing 35 screws and that each one can take several minutes to unscrew. He said, “I take the ZEN approach.” He focuses on one screw at a time, not thinking about all that is left. He says he stays present in his immediate task so that he doesn’t drive himself crazy.
So to my surprise astronauts take a physically fit and mentally strong approach to their journeys in space.
Is There Exercise In Space?
I went on a four night cruise last week. It’s been five nights later and I am still recovering. My stomach is a mess even though I ate relatively healthy. I am so tired regardless of the 8-9 hours of sleep I got each night which is more than normal. My body aches all over and my joints are stiff. My workouts feel sluggish mind you I did work out every single day but just not to the intensity or duration. Crazy to think that four nights of eating differently, partaking in alcoholic beverages, going to bed late, waking up even later and not being on my normal schedule would create such chaos in my system. I thought vacations were a good thing. I thought taking a “break” was needed.
This just proves my theory that the body likes a schedule. It does best when things stay the same. It works at its peak performance when it can rely on consistency.
I never feel like I need a break from my food, sleep or workouts. What I do need is a break from my computer, my phone and the crazy feeling that the world will end if I don’t check my texts. Maybe next time I will just take a four night, five day No Electronics “cruise”.
Care to take a break with me?
Want To Take A Break?