Mayo Angelou said, “Just because you are in pain doesn’t mean you have to BE a pain.”
I had a client tell me he purchased a series of five deep tissue massages. I asked how it was going. He said, “Well I don’t swear and yell at the therapist like I do when you massage me.” I asked him why not. He told me, “I don’t want the therapist to think I am a wimp and can’t handle the pain.”
I had another client tell me that when she use to train at a big gym she never complained or whined during her sessions. I asked why. She said she didn’t want everyone in the gym hearing her sound so pathetic. She said, “I don’t want everyone thinking I am a loser”.
Let me get this straight, with me you can swear and yell. With me you can complain and whine. When you are not with me, you cannot because you don’t want anyone to think you are a wimp or a loser. I am here to tell you that you are not a wimp so handle the pain like a champion. You are not a loser so handle the session like a winner. I know you can because you do it when you are not with me!
Guess what?! You are not alone. We all go through pain. Pain does not give you permission to be mean nor does it give you the right to be a wimp or a loser. In fact pain gives you the chance to prove your strength and understand your weaknesses. It gives you the opportunity to rely on others who care about you and walk away from those who sabotage you. Pain has the amazing ability to create relationships and break up relationships. Pain can motivate change or can also spiral you into insanity. Pain can teach a lesson or promote ignorance. Pain can create a community or cultivate loneliness. Pain can deepen empathy or intensify impassivity . Pain will come in and out of your life so learn to use it to your advantage.
Being in pain hurts – I get it. Living with chronic pain is uncomfortable – I understand that. Feeling like you have no control over your pain is depressing – I have been there. Being a pain because you have pain – you are on your own with that.
Are you a pain?
Are You A Pain?
I use to teach group fitness classes at various gyms, clubs and studios. One time I was “subbing” for another instructor last minute so there wasn’t enough time to add my name onto the website as a sub. I was checking people into the class when one guy stops and asks me, “Are you teaching this class?” I told him that I was filling
in because the regular instructor was ill. He looked very upset. He quickly said, “Take me out of the class.” As he walked out he mumbled to the other people waiting in line to sign in, “I don’t like that instructor”. His words raised eyebrows and I immediately felt hurt. A person in line asked, “What did you do to him?”
I know not everyone will like me. That guy who left my class probably wasn’t the first student to not like me. Not everyone likes the way I teach. My classes are intense but not because I make up hard exercises. It’s because I am in your space. I make sure you do it right. I hold you accountable for your actions. I don’t let
you cheat yourself. I call you out when I know you are holding back. You can’t hide in the back corner. You can’t stare at yourself in the mirror. I don’t let you lose any bit of the 60 minutes you signed up for. I believe in hard work when you step into my class. Not everyone will like that – I get that. What I don’t get is this:
I genuinely care about people who come into my space. I honestly put your needs in front of mine when I am helping you. I am consistently there for you when you need me. I don’t compete with you. I don’t judge you. I won’t lie or cheat. So in the game of life, all the people that come in and out of your life, how many can you say
will be like me and genuinely care about you?
What did I do to you? I cared about you. I know you don’t like me. It’s because I hold you accountable. It’s because you can’t cheat with me. You can’t fool me. You can’t lie to me. You can’t compete with me. It’s because I see who you are.
Do you like me?
I care about you
Today was “Walk To School Day” for my children. We, I mean “I” was thrilled to walk but my kids were not so happy. They complained. They moaned. They whined. It was ridiculous.
As we were walking up to school, there was a woman holding a sign that says, “Wine Needed for Gala – Please Donate”. I just so happen to have a very nice bottle of Petite Syrah straight from Napa. Guess where that bottle is going … To the schools gala.
I get to school and they are asking parents to buy a class shirt for their child. The cost is only $5. I have a $20 bill and the office asks, “Do you want change?” I am reading the shirt flyer and it says, “If you cannot afford a shirt your child will still be provided one from school funds.” After reading that I tell the front office lady to apply my change to the funds to help pay for the children who cannot afford a shirt.
While I am walking away from the school I stop and talk to a mother who wants to know if I am going to “Coffee with the Principal”. She says she wants to talk to the principal about a fitness program at recess. She tells me about it and says, “Hey – would you want to host maybe once a week at lunch a little fitness activity for the kids? This way the school doesn’t have to pay an outdoor vendor.” I say, “Sure – I can do that.”
So today I walked to school with my grumpy kids, gave away a bottle of wine you can’t get in SD, donated money so kids who can’t afford a shirt can get one AND offered to volunteer once a week hosting a fitness class for children to be more active. This walk cost me a lot today!
What did it cost?
What Did It Cost?
Do You Want To See It?
What your looking at is a photo of two nutritional labels. The left one is what we see now on food. The right one is the proposed new label making it clear for people to see what they are eating. The calories are larger, it’s portions are measured in sizes that we know like cups not ounces. It’s clearly stated but if you don’t turn the package around to read the nutritional facts – You won’t see it!
This is the issue with people, they don’t want to see it. They don’t want to know. They don’t want to be held accountable. They don’t want to be responsible for their life.
If you don’t look in the mirror – you won’t see yourself. If you don’t check in with your partner – you won’t know how your relationship is doing. If you don’t ask your boss for a review – you won’t know how well you are at your job. If you don’t turn the food package around – you won’t know what you are eating. You won’t ever see it.
So it’s up to you to see it and if you don’t, it’s not because you couldn’t – it’s because you didn’t want to.
Do you want to see it?
Do You Kick Butt?
This is how I started my 43rd year, KICKING BUTT! I couldn’t think of a better way to start my 43rd chapter of my life. It sure beats 43 spankings…
If you can’t kick your own butt, who can?
Do you kick butt?
There are thousands of personal trainers and yoga teachers in San Diego. Just in the neighborhood of my studio, there are more than twenty exercise businesses within a three mile radius. The fitness industry is saturated with many professionals so it is up to me to stand out.
That is why when I get asked to lecture, teach, write, speak, host, donate or do anything that can bring attention to LisaFIT – I do it! Recently I got asked to contribute to Shape.com by giving my professional opinion about beginner yoga. It took me some time to write my submission. I really wanted to be in the article and I knew that there were no guarantees. Shape.com is a nationally recognized website and other professionals were being asked to contribute as well.
This morning I get an email that says, “Thank you for your contribution”. I quickly run through the article and there I am, MY NAME and MY BUSINESS. The best part is it’s all under these words, “we went to a few of the country’s top yoga teachers and asked them to share their top beginner tips.” Shape.com
Today is the last day of my 42nd year on this planet and it couldn’t have ended any better. I know there are tons of personal trainers and yoga teachers. I know there are studios on every corner. I know that many people are passionate about what they do. What I want to know is, how many of them stand out?
Do you stand out?
Do You Stand Out?
Yes – just this morning I “lectured” about this and it made me feel the need to post it. Are you a team? What do I mean? Is your body, mind and spirit all playing for the same team?
You can walk into a gym and workout – that is team player 1, your body. You can focus on feeling your muscles contract – that is team player 2, your mind, You can tell yourself, “I know I can do this” – that is team player 3, your spirit. All the players on this team are working together to maximize the quality of your workout as well as increasing the benefits of your time in the gym, That is your best scenario, being a team of body, mind and spirit.
What happens when you go workout and your body is doing all the work but your mind is mentally checked out and your spirit is saying, “I can’t do this”? Are you a team? I know you think just showing up to a workout is enough and for some it may be the first step to taking control of your health but if you think you are going to be able to break limits and set new strides, then you will need the help of your mind and spirit. If your body is the only player working hard then guess what happens next? Your body stops, the players fight with each other and the team loses.
What are you trying to accomplish right now? Are you a team? Whatever you are doing, stop and ask yourself, “Am I a team?” You can go through the motion – team player 1 your body. This is where most of us are in life, just moving through our day. You will need the help of team player 2 the mind. The mind has to focus on the present and think about what you are doing. Try your best to not distract yourself with television, gossip/multimedia sites or internet browsing. Instead create a plan, talk about ideas and write down how to obtain goals. This is where some of us are. Your success is determined by team player 3 your spirit. Are you telling yourself things like, “I can’t handle this”, “I am so wiped out”, “I am done”. Those words will only sabotage what you want to accomplish. Instead use a mantra that resonates with you. It could be a saying from a song or part of a poem or even a quote from an author. Write it down and put it up on your bathroom mirror, on your fridge, on the steering wheel of your car and in the front of your wallet. My favorite is to have it be the “wallpaper” on your phone and screen saver on your computer.
Stop right now from being the person holding you back. It takes a team and you have all the players.
Are you a team?
I hear people say to me all the time, “I want to lose weight”, or “I want to get into shape”, or “I need to be healthier”. I can be out with friends, at a family gathering, in my work clothes at the grocery store or even sometimes at my children’s school. It really doesn’t matter where I am, or who says it. The bottom line is, “Why aren’t you taking action?”
In my head I am thinking, “How much weight do you have to gain before you decide to take action?” In my mind I am wondering, “How out of shape do you have to be before you take action?” In my world I am questioning, “When does your health become important enough for you to take action?” The bottom line is, “Why aren’t you taking action?”
What makes a person talk about something but not take action? I have been told by very wise people that there are actual reasons why people talk the talk but don’t walk the walk.
1) There is something for them to gain by keeping their current situation. It may be that they like to have something to complain about or that people will sympathize with them or even, commiseration amongst those in similar situations.
2) They come up with too many excuses which means that their current situation isn’t really that terrible. If you really want something THAT bad, then you do whatever you can to make it happen no matter what.
3) They are afraid to fail which prevents them from taking action. It’s true – if you never start then you won’t fail but you won’t ever succeed either.
Think about something that you have been talking about doing for a long time now. What has stopped you?
Why aren’t you taking action?
Why Aren’t You Taking Action?
I am going out of town this weekend and you better believe that I am bringing food, using hotel gym for my morning cardio and finding a gym for my weight training.
I am sharing this with you because I get clients telling me all the time how their family, friends, coworkers, loved ones are constantly giving them a hard time because clients want to stay on track with their fitness regimen. Guess what? I too am given a hard time. We all hear the same thing. “It’s only a couple days –
you can miss a few workouts.” “Come on, live a little.” “You deserve to have fun.”
I am hear to tell you that I LOVE the way I live. Working out makes me feel energized and strong so why would I want to miss that? The way my body feels sweating, heart pumping, lungs breathing hard – aren’t those signs of living? Jamming to my tunes, in my own world, giving back to myself, true me time – isn’t that fun? I have a relationship with my body and in order for it to work for me, I work hard for it.
One of the best times to really stay on track with my fitness regimen IS on vacation. I don’t have work or kids to get in the way of taking care of myself. I take advantage of the empty time to get in two workouts especially since I love checking out new gyms. I enjoy finding healthy food restaurants. It’s like a hunt that many of you might get when you find a good deal.
So here is my suitcase for the weekend. I have carrots, apples, oatmeal packets, protein shakes, almonds, peanut butter packets, sprouted bread, protein bars, instant coffee, emergen-c and I LOVE IT!
What’s in your suitcase?
What’s In Your Suitcase?
When To Fight – what did you think I meant? I am telling you that life is constantly throwing things, people, issues, obstacles, etc in front of me and in my head I am thinking, “Pick my battles” which is why I say, “WTF – When to fight?” I have no idea which battles I am suppose to rise to the occasion and put up a fight
and which ones I am suppose to cut my losses and walk away. Plus it doesn’t help that I am one of the most indecisive persons you will ever meet.
But in the gym, it is a total different story. I put up a fight! So when I get clients that don’t “fight” through a workout, I go into my toughest LisaFIT mode. I tell the clients, “Come On! Here is where you need to fight!” “Here is where the fighting is a guarantee win!” “Here it’s just you fighting against yourself and I promise – you won’t get hurt.” With that I get two types of people. Those that will work so hard that when it is time to stop they literally fall to the ground. When it comes near the end, they push harder because they know it is temporary. When I tell them to go five more seconds, they don’t stop when I countdown and say, “One”. Those people do one more rep and collapse. Then there are the other types of people who pace themselves. I find them to be hard workers but different. When nearing the end of an exercise they will drop the weight at their third to last repetition. When there is a countdown they will stop at five seconds left. They are still pushing themselves but there is one element that I don’t get. They aren’t fighting. I can tell when someone is at their end. I can see when someone can’t do anymore. I know when someone is fighting and when someone is NOT fighting.
When to fight? I can’t tell you if you should fight for a job, a relationship, an opinion, a decision, etc. I have enough problems making those decisions for myself. What I can tell you is that the moment you step into my gym, my studio, my space – the moment you are with me, you have to fight. Because the second I get the feeling
that I want it more than you do, that I am fighting harder than you are – is the same second that you have lost.
When to fight?
When to fight?